What kinds of qualities do you look for in a girl/ want your future partner to possess?
Great question, because I'm probably going to end up over analyzing this as well.
An individual's personality, or even his or her identity, is a very intricate concept. You can often describe a friend or acquaintance with relatively concrete adjectives like "down-to-earth" or "laid back". However, when it comes to assessing what makes a person attractive overall, the individual is a tangled mess of personality traits and mannerisms that just appears oh so beautiful. To stop equivocating, I can mention some of the characteristics that I admire, but it can never act as a template for that special someone. You can't lower Earth's gravitational force just because you want to feel less heavy.
I really wish I could mention some of the girls that I've found/find attractive. But since this is an anonymous question that more than a few might see, I really can't. But anyways, here goes:
1. Energy - This definitely contrasts with how many people, outside of my closest friends, see me. But at the same time, "opposites attract" is a legitimate argument. The point here is that a specific balance would be appreciated. Neither withdrawn nor obnoxiously ditsy.
2. Pride/Humility. This is another balance issue that actually incorporates intelligence, self-esteem and understanding. Obviously, it's undesirable to have someone that's too strong-headed or boastful, but at the same time, someone that doesn't show any confidence or self-esteem isn't attractive either.
3. Introversion - Contrasts a bit with the whole "energy" idea, except that there are plenty of shy people that have a "different" personality around their friends. This adds a little bit to the concept of understanding
4. Distinction/Achievement. This left last intentionally because it may appear too legalistic or materialistic. However, achievement is representative of a forward looking and optimistic mindset. Also, and I can't stress this enough, I want to be able to admire someone for their own ability, to look at them as an individual, rather than just a good friend or spouse.
I think that's enough for now.
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